Jodene Shaer 

Has Self-Help Let You Down Too?

You must have a plan. Isn’t that the rule to getting anywhere in life? In high school, you already had to know who you wanted to be so you could choose the related subjects to get into the university or college you wanted. Or, you chose the subjects your parents thought you should take, while praising you for the brilliant corporate mogul you would become. “What do you want to be when you grow up?” is a question most of us felt forced to answer, because very few of us had a realistic and passionate response.

Far too many of us turn to self-help tools, plagued with the assumption that we know what we want in our lives, because everyone is supposed to have a plan. If you ask around, chances are the less conventional and more free-spirited people have made it through life without a goal or a plan. Some people are goal driven, but most are not. Some people are master manifestors and turn their vision directly into reality. Most of the world does not have that ease and ability. Some people know the exact direction they are heading in, and many of them are the ones who wrote the self-help books the rest are reading. They start the book with the assumption that everyone knows their purpose or has a set-out path to success. The reality is, most people aren’t sure of their purpose, don’t know what their goals are, and think they are happy, but they could be wrong. Those very people, who are living their lives figuring it out in the moment, are told they are wrong and that they won’t achieve what they set out to because they haven’t told their Universe where to take them. There has never been a more damaging message fed to us as free-spirited beings. I continuously strive to be living proof that you can figure it out as you go along, and you can be successful while you slowly work out your goals and watch your plans unfold.

In the peak of the ‘law of attraction’ hype, it was all about dreaming beyond your wildest imagination. We were told we could have anything we imagined, and we were free to imagine as big as we wanted. A part of that is true, but imagination is not what we force through for material and physical gain. Do you think the sage on the mountain top, when waiting for enlightenment, had anything but his family, his crops and his health? When the Western world took hold of the purest lessons passed down to us by the earliest Eastern teachers about law of attraction, happiness and abundance, no one stopped to think that there was no material gain to be had hundreds of years ago. When enlightenment was reached and the law of abundance was instilled as a fundamental teaching, there were no cars, travel packages, Fortune 500 companies, or Gucci bags to turn from visualisation into reality. The was only abundance of fulfilment, joy, happiness, and love.

Vision boards are the biggest red flag, where much of the world is tripped up by the misguidance of the essence of the law of attraction. If you have been guided in creating a vision board, you would have been told to be limitless and have exaggerated dreams. Why not, right? Celebrities have shared their wealth and success stories on talk shows and have created YouTube videos telling you exactly how they turned their lives from close to nothing, to being on the cover of every magazine across the globe. They share their stories of how it was so far out of their reach, and encourage us to dream it, keep positive about it, and promise us that it will surely manifest.

No one told us that if you can’t feel the impact of our choices way before they become a reality, that our imagined life will not turn into reality. It was long forgotten, through the watered-down messages from the greatest teachers of all time, that the energy with which we imagine is the golden key to turning thoughts to things. It’s as simple as that! 

“Do not believe in anything (simply) because you have heard it. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. Do not believe in anything, because it is spoken and rumoured by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.” Quoted from 2500 Buddha Jayanti (page 39)



With courage, consciousness & a sense of humour